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New Year’s Resolutions I Plan to Keep

I’ve never really been one to make New Year’s Resolutions, but this year I think I’m going to give it a try.  And I figure, why wait until the 31st?

1.  Update this blog!  I have no problem changing my hair or my wardrobe or whatever else might not be ‘doing it’ for me anymore, so why not the blog?  There are little things that have been driving me crazy about it for awhile – like this font.  I hate this font now.  I feel like making some minor adjustments will make me want to blog more …

2.  Complete a blog post EVERY DAY.  Even if it’s just a sentence or a photo.  It will force me to take at least five minutes for myself.

3.  Stop biting my nails.  I have had beautiful nails only twice in my life and they only lasted for a few weeks and then I’m back to nipping them off again.  If I can break this bad habit, I can break them all!

4.  Continue working out a minimum of four times a week.  I’ve been pretty good with this the past month or so and I’d like to see myself keep up the good work and get back into those ‘way before Ava was conceived’ jeans.

5.  Finish what I start.  My husband says I am an ideas person, and it’s true.  I have lots of ideas, but very few of them ever come to life.  I even had the idea to write them all down and publish a book of ideas for other people to follow through.  Time to step it up!

6.  Learn photoshop.  Something I’ve been meaning to do for awhile now.

7.  Read more.  And not blogs or magazines – books.

8.  Start writing in Ava’s journal again.  While I was pregnant, I started a journal to give to Ava when she’s older.  I haven’t written in it in almost year.  [Yet another finish what I start issue.]

9.  Hire a babysitter.  Ava is three years old and we’ve never had a sitter.  A few times, either my mom or Mike’s parents have watched her while we slipped out for dinner, but other than that the three of us go everywhere together.  Time for a little one on one time with the husband [or some girlfriends]!

10.  Go to the dentist, eye doctor, and general physician.  It has been embarrassingly too long.

baby / tots life

I’ve Been a Very Bad Blogger

Yes, I admit it.  Lately I have been a very bad blogger.  I haven’t posted anything in 44 days.  Yikes.  Shame on me.  Now I am going to have to make up for lost time by going on a posting rampage.  I’m not even going to make any excuses for my neglect except to say I was sucked into a black hole or a time warp or something … because motherhood can feel like that sometimes.  Things we have (or make) time for slowly inch their way down the priority list to make room for bigger and better stuff … like …

Learning to ride a tricycle:

Finally being able to pump the swing:

Climbing a tree:

(With Daddy’s help, of course)

Holding a baby lamb:

And planning a weekend getaway … which we are leaving on today.  It is Mike’s birthday weekend [official b-day Monday] and we are whisking him away on a surprise trip so I can’t share any details with you … yet.  XO

baby / tots life

Kisses & Curls

I tried out my new ceramic curlers set yesterday [an after Christmas gift – yeah giftcards!].  I didn’t brush them out or put any product in my hair and they lasted all day.  Ava told me my hair was pretty and I got to steal this kiss.

Can’t get much better … XO

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Baby’s First Dim Sum

After what has seemed like forever, we are finally all moved into our new place.  I still have plenty of boxes left to unpack, artwork to hang, and knick-knacks to arrange, but for me that is the fun part of moving.  [Pictures coming soon!]  Our loft is located in the South Loop, pretty close to Chinatown.  Yesterday we took Ava for her first dim sum [think Chinese brunch].

We brought along the training chopsticks Mike bought her [by Combi from ThinkGeek], which she was actually able to pick up food with [but enjoyed just poking holes in it more].  Her favorite part of the meal was the green tea – she loved holding her little tea cup and sipping warm tea.  So mature.  :-)  XO


Smile Real Big!

I love it when we ask her to “Smile Real Big” …. and that she does.  XO.  Have a great Labor Day Weekend!


I Have a Baby, You Have a Baby – Let’s Hang Out

Since we only know one or two people here in Chicago [and no one else with a baby], I signed up for a couple of those meet-up groups for parents.  As one new mom I’ve been chatting with stated, “It’s like internet dating for lonely moms,”.  I wouldn’t necessarily consider myself lonely, but I am lacking in the friends with babies department.  I think that [especially in the case of first time moms] an outlet to share, compare, brag, and yes, even complain is an important part of motherhood.  There are never-ending lists of groups for every type of mothering style and personality [artsy moms, holistic moms, stay at home moms, etc.] and message boards with topics ranging from baby food recipes to pooping schedules.  Some meet-ups are for just moms to get together and chat over coffee, but most are playdates and get-togethers so your little ones can interact while you get time to converse with other moms in a situation like your own.  We haven’t attended any events yet, but are signed up to go to a Halloween party for babes too young to trick-or-treat.  I know that Ava will have a good time and I’m hoping Mike and I can meet some other parents we might actually like hanging out with.  It’s weird how your criteria for friendship changes once you have a baby.  We used to go out all the time and meet people at parties and local bars, but now we stay in and pray Ava will go to bed on time so we can have a few minutes to ourselves in front of the TV.  Gone are the days of being party animals and staying out until dawn … now we buy stuffed animals and wake up at sunrise.  And I wouldn’t trade it for anything.

Have a meet-up story you’d like to share?  Email me!!  XO

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MOM = Me Only More

The company I had been working for closed its doors in February 2008.  In March, I received an unexpected offer for what would turn out to be the most challenging and rewarding job I have ever had – motherhood.

After the initial shock wore off, I became obsessed with two things – cleaning the apartment and gathering as much information as possible about what was going to happen to my body.  In my new germ free environment, I sat transfixed in front of my laptop for countless hours learning terms I had never heard of before … meconium, colostrum, and [dare I mention it?] perineal massage.  I watched birthing videos with my mouth agape in horror and cringed while reading an article titled “Things That Will Come Out of Your Body”.  I also poured over baby names and was in awe at what was happening inside my womb [thanks to weekly email updates!].  And the best part of the online pregnancy experience …. being able to ask all those questions you are too embarrassed to ask in person.

In addition to all of my questions and concerns about the physical elements of pregnancy, I had concerns about the emotional side as well.  What would happen to me?  Would giving birth mean the death of my former self? Don’t get me wrong, I was super excited to become a mom.  I just wanted to be sure that my identity wasn’t going to be lost when we decided I would not be going back to work.  I didn’t know what being a Stay At Home Mom would do to my creativity, my sanity, or my social life.

Writing about this now, it sounds kind of selfish, but I assure you that’s not where I was coming from … I was about to become a mother for the first time and sometimes, the uncertainty that comes with all of that responsibility can be overwhelming.  And that’s okay.  The good news is that Ava is eight months old now and if anything, I am a new and improved version of the pre-baby me [although my “skinny jeans” might disagree].  I feel more creative than ever and each day brings new milestones, new joys, and new ideas to keep the balance.  For every sacrifice there is fulfillment.  Instead of singing in a rock band, I now write children’s songs.  Instead of writing bios and press releases, I write blog posts and am working on a children’s book.  I still have my independence.  I just have to be a bit more imaginative in how I exhibit and exercise it.   XO.

me & ava

baby / tots life

At The Speed of Motherhood

The babers is asleep in her stroller, it is raining outside, and the house is actually quiet.  Normally, I would take this opportunity to run around the house frantically cleaning, but today I am forcing myself to enjoy some “me time” and sit on the sofa with a mug of coffee, my laptop, the cat, and my thoughts.  I had almost forgotten how good it feels to relax … to slow things down … to be “alone”.  It’s like the instant I became a mom, I started moving at lightning speed.  Everything is rushed or interrupted – eating, sleeping, showering … things I never thought twice about before have become – hold that thought … the stroller is rustling.

Two hours later …. Where was I?  Oh, yes.  Talking about how the littlest things have become luxuries.  Since I began typing this post I changed a diaper, played peek-a-boo, prepped green beans, red potatoes, and tomatoes for a salad we will be having for dinner, dusted, mopped, kissed the babers like a hundred times, did the dishes, and made the bed.  I could have kept going, but Ava eventually tired of playing with toys on her alphabet floor and put her newly mastered army crawl to work.  I fed her and put her into her crib when she fell asleep and now, as if on cue, I hear a fussy baby calling me from the monitor.

One hour later … Took pictures of a Boppy swing and Bumbo chair to sell on Craigslist and cleaned up Ava’s room while singing and dancing.  Now she is quietly babbling on the floor in front of me while chewing on a cup [a floor full of toys and she chooses the cup].  Uh oh, she is crawling this way … better wrap this up fast.  I guess what I’m trying to say is that at the end of the day, things like hot meals, closing the bathroom door, sleeping in, and finishing anything I’ve started are small prices to pay for the wonderment of motherhood.  One little smile is all it takes and suddenly, time stops and I’m in the moment and that moment is the best moment of my life.


ava babers

creativity life

It’s Friday: “Let’s Get Personal”

I have almost completed my first week of blogging and thought it was about time I shared a little about who I am and what this blog is all about.

I grew up in a small town in Ohio and moved to New York City 14 years ago.  For the past three years I have been living in the Williamsburg neighborhood of Brooklyn.  When I first moved to the city, I worked as a waitress and model and then onto a string of jobs in fashion and advertising.  I eventually ended up in the music industry, where I handled international marketing and public relations for about seven years.  I then went to work for a photography agency as a talent rep and producer.  Blah, blah, blah.  After finding out I was pregnant with my first baby, my other half and I decided that I would stay at home and focus on being a mommy.  Michael works as a Senior Art Director at a boutique ad agency and is a loving and supportive father.

Here is a picture of us on Mother’s Day on our way to brunch:


And one of Ava enjoying her first taste of peas!!


I feel blessed to have this precious time with our daughter day in and day out, but need some sort of creative outlet.  I just resumed rehearsals with the band I am in [I sing … and promise to post a song soon], but I wanted to be able to share my experiences and finds with other moms and like-minded people.  Ava is about to turn six months old, just started crawling, and just sprouted her first tooth.  The photo of her screaming in the big sunglasses was taken when she was two weeks old and was the inspiration for Furious Shirley.

For each day of the week, there will be a different theme featuring products and inspiration from myself, independent creators, and moms just like you.  Here’s the breakdown:

Mondays – “Things I Like” – cute things, things I can’t live without, good advice, submission reviews, etc.
Tuesdays – “All About the Babers” – everything baby
Wednesdays – “I’m Hungry” – recipes, kitchen gadgets, food related topics
Thursdays – “Get Dressed” – fashion and trends
Fridays –  “Let’s Get Personal” – interviews with interesting people
Saturdays – “Laugh Out Loud” – things that make me and hopefully you smile
Sundays – “Lazy Sundays” – miscellaneous post day

I want this blog to grow to be a portal for creative minded people to share themselves and their workIf you have a product, service, recipe, etc. that you think should be featured/reviewed on the blog, please email me.

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